“Mary, You’re gonna go broke saving money.” That’s what my Grandpa used to say to my
Nana, riding her for the gallon jug of Breck shampoo overwhelming the corner of
the shower stall. I seem to recall
though, that he was the one responsible for the cases of undrinkable,
saccharine-sweetened No-Cal chocolate
soda in the bottom of the coat closet. And now this is what my own mom says to
me, thrusting an oversized jar of thyme in confrontation: “Maria, you’re gonna
go broke saving money. You know, spices
lose their flavor if you hold onto them too long.”
The quart jar of thyme leaves is still ¾ full. So is the
mustard powder. Mustard powder,
unlike prepared mustard, is sinus-clearing hot. I use it sparingly. I bought
this jar six years ago at my favorite Pakistani deli. It has indeed lost
flavor, but it’s still hot as hell.
The family has decided to divide and conquer for MLK
weekend: Granddad and my older son to Texas to shoot at quail, husband and my younger
son to Georgia to pick pecans from the cousins’ tree, and Mom has come to stay
with me.
Three days together, what will we do? You don’t get your nails done with mom.
She doesn’t have nails; she works too hard. She is the least vain person I
know. It took great cajoling to
get her to join me for a pedicure last summer, and for God’s sake, she has a
swimming pool. She’s barefoot from May to October. We think about the period rooms on the 4th floor
of the Brooklyn Museum, but with her arthritic spine it’s hard for mom to get
around the art museums and antique shops these days. It’s turning cold too. We
stay close to home, and do home projects.
I have learned that it’s good domestic policy to line up
projects for mom’s visits. Clearly my household invites organizational
aggression and if, in my defense, I fail to pile up structured tasks like
sandbags before tsunamis, mom will soon invade territories off-limits. She will plunder my catch-all drawer,
purging corks and medicine dispensers, twisty ties and duck sauce. Admittedly, all this for my own good, but
she will also, without asking, toss scraps of paper with essential numbers and
talk me into recycling my rusting tea kettle, a move I will regret even before the
next tea time. Worst of all, she
will bleach my coffee mug.
So I’ve been collecting unmatched socks for months, and now
I dump the basket on the dining room table before her. In mom’s mind, people and socks should
all find mates. Within ten
minutes, the pile is reduced by half. Now she’s stuck and turns on me: “You must have a lot of
money to waste.” “No mom, why?” She waves a lone cashmere knee-hi. “Some of these are expensive socks. You
better look under the beds and find the mates.” So she’s got me looking under mattresses and running
half-loads of stray socks, just to generate a few more matches.
Taming a riotous mob of argyles and tucking them paired,
deep into drawers, is deeply satisfying, but Mom’s real theatre of war is the
pantry. She is boots on the ground
in the snack shelf: granola and
fig bars squeezed into the same box, graham crackers and Rye Krisps
strong-armed side by side in a vintage Saltines tin. To conquer the spice rack, she has me bring up baby food jars
from the basement and mashes cumin, Krazy Salt, paprika, clove, and yes, the
mustard powder into a delicioso Mexican
pork rub.
I was a teen when I dubbed her “the Great Consolidator.” Her effects were first felt in the
pantry, where she secretly combined half boxes of Total and Special K, Corn
Flakes and whatever. You never knew what you were getting when you shook that
box of cereal: woven pillows of wheat, balls of corn, puffs of rice. It was
mom’s own Chex Party Mix in every bowl. She graduated to syrups and dried fruits. You’d reach for a
handful of raisins and get Craisins and instead of maple syrup, a maple/honey/Karo
pancake blend.
Nothing was as
it appeared in the icebox either. True
fat content was rarely reflected on the milk carton; a glass of skim would
taste more like 2%. Mom thought nothing
of combining quarts of skim, low-fat and whole, much to the annoyance of
waistline-watching Dad.
Today, deployed in a corner of my kitchen, a fortress of
Barilla boxes before her, I wonder “What does she get out of this?” To be of joyful service to her children has
always been her aim. Her crippled hands can’t open cans or peel potatoes
anymore, but they can still top off the Aunt Jemima mix with a scant cup of
Bisquik, they can reduce clutter, simplify my life -- and that is
something.
But the food frontier inspires more than a raid and subjugation
of my shelves. Suddenly, Mom’s eyes sparkle: “Let’s make soup.” She turns in
her armor for an artist’s smock.
The Great Consolidator is morphing into the Kandinski of the Kitchen,
the Seurat of the Stovetop. The fact is, it’s a supremely creative act to throw
wide the cupboard doors and make a meal from what you find… and mom is, above
all, a supremely creative person. Cooking
from the pantry. It’s a game with only one rule: you’re not allowed to run out
and buy a missing ingredient. Substitutions,
however, are welcome and encouraged. Not only a colossus of consolidation, Mom
is the world’s best at making do: powdered milk for fresh, green onions for
red, til everything is used up. That’s how to win at this game: use it all
up. “You’ve got a lot of black
beans,” she observes. Black bean soup it is. Fifteen minutes later the stock pot is bubbling and
mom is adjusting to taste. Again,
her caramel eyes flash: “Got any
open salsa in the fridge?” I rifle through the door compartments of my Amana. I
do! A good 1/3 of a jar of Ortega, medium heat salsa. She dumps it in. What else?” I pull out a styrofoam clamshell of leftover basmati rice
from the Gyro King. In it goes.
Tomorrow, after breakfast, I will set her up in front of her
Sunday morning political shows and hop in the shower. She will grow restless
with the roundtable on “Meet the Press” and when I return, I will find my
kitchen sink full of brown banana leaves. She will have pruned all my
houseplants.
For now though, I stand behind her, our tummies tight with
black beans, rubbing her neck while she plays solitaire. “Stop playing cards
mom, and just enjoy this.” “We were very productive today, weren’t we?” “Yes Mom, we were.” “Good enough to keep
the board of health away anyway. And
wait til we hit that refrigerator tomorrow…”
The Great Consolidator’s Black
Bean Soup
1 large can and 1 small can
black beans (or 3 small cans, or 2 large cans, whatever you’ve got on hand, roughly 50 ounces total)
1 beef bouillon cube (or 1 T
beef base, or 1 can of beef broth)
1 large yellow onion, chopped (or
1 red onion, or 3 green onions, or 2 T dried onion)
3 cloves garlic, minced (or 1 T garlic
paste, granulated garlic, or garlic powder)
2 cans V-8 cocktail (excellent
way to address the largely un-drunk case from Costco) (or 1 can tomato juice or tomato
sauce)
6 cups water
Mystery meat from the freezer. (What have you got?
Frost-bitten smoked turkey wings? Perfect. A ham bone or salt pork? Great. Breakfast
sausage or bacon will do in a pinch.)
1/3 cup EVOO (or not-so-virginal
olive oil, or an oil blend like olive and canola)
1 green pepper, chopped (if you don’t
have a pepper withering in the crisper, don’t sweat it.)
2 stalks celery, plus tops,
chopped (I freeze celery tops for
soups)
1 carrot, chopped
up to ½ cup jarred salsa (optional, but does add a certain je ne sais quoi)
generous pinches of thyme and
oregano (fresh or dried)
chopped fresh cilantro (the finishing touch, but remember, if
you don’t have it, it’s cheating to run out for some)
Boil up the water with the bouillon cube, V-8 juice,
vegetables, turkey wings or ham bone and spices. Add EVOO and salsa. Simmer for a good
half hour. Add beans and rice last. Adjust
seasoning to taste. Remove meat
from pot. Remove meat from bones and return meat only to pot.
Garnish with cilantro.
You can top with croutons you’ve made from stale bread too.
Bonus Recipe!
The Great Consolidator’s Granola
8 cups old-fashioned oats (No substitutes here. DON’T use
quick or instant oats)
2 cups nuts (any will do: walnuts/pecans/almonds/hazelnuts/macadamia/cashew/brazil)
½ cup light-tasting oil (old cookbooks call this “salad oil”
canola,/corn/soybean/grapeseed/coconut etc..)
½ cup honey
¼ cup maple syrup (if you don’t have honey, use more syrup,
and vice-versa)
1 cup flaked coconut (optional. So if you don’t have it,
don’t sweat it.)
Stir all together and bake in a 300F oven for 1-1 ½ hours, stirring every 15 minutes.
Remove from oven and stir in any combo of dried fruit totaling
2 cups:
Raisins/cranberries/slivered apricots/blueberries/cherries/prunes/figs
Do not return to oven.
Stir gently, allow to cool and pack in air-tight
containers. Lasts a good while.
Enjoy over yogurt, cottage cheese, oatmeal, or ice cream, or
with milk, or alone!